You may already have a good marriage, but if you’re like me, you like to keep learning and growing, making things better and better in your life so that you can have the most joy and peace.
You like moving up the spiral of positive connection in your relationship.
I have a solution that I believe you are going to absolutely love and I think it's really needed, even in marriages that are already good.
I designed The Good to Better Marriage Ladder to start at the foundation and build it’s way upward so that a marriage grows closer and healthier each step of the way
10 weeks to a better marriage!
Here are the modules:
Fighting Respectfully
We all know what the alternative to fighting respectfully is!
Either the silent treatment which significantly cuts off positive connection.
Or harmful words that can really damage the foundation of the relationship.
By learning the tools I teach you will learn to:
Address problems while maintaining the dignity of both of you
Collaborate on solving the problem at hand rather than attacking each other
Avoid unnecessary hurt allowing for a more supportive dialogue
In this module I teach you how to approach conflicts with respect, so that there’s an environment where both of you feel comfortable expressing yourselves.
The end product is a stronger emotional connection and a more meaningful relationship.
2. Apologizing
Many, if not most of the couples I see don’t make it a habit of apologizing.
That’s why I’m dedicating a whole module to it.
When we don’t apologize, it makes it much harder for the relationship to recover and it takes longer to heal.
In this module, I teach multiple elements that are involved in a full apology so that you can learn the aspects that are most important to your spouse.
Once you start apologizing more readily and in the way that your spouse most easily responds to, your relationship can grow in empathy and trust.
I want that for you!
Couples see a quick transformation after this coaching session.
They notice that arguments don’t last as long and they’re able to get peace back in their home more quickly.
3. Forgiving
When we choose not to forgive:
Resentment and anger can build
Unresolved feelings can lead to heightened stress and anxiety. The constant replaying in our mind of hurtful events can keep us trapped in a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions
Physical consequences can show up too - higher blood pressure, digestive issues, and more
While we might understand the importance of forgiveness, we might not know exactly what forgiveness entails and what it doesn’t.
This is where I come in. I’ll teach you how to forgive and still have boundaries so that you can have the healthiest version of you and your relationship.
4. Creating a safe space for vulnerability
Creating a safe place for you to be vulnerable together allows you to express your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative consequences.
Couples who learn these skills notice that they have a more authentic connection and they even notice that it’s an opportunity for self-discovery and growth.
5. Managing Expectations
When we’re not managing expectations, there’s a lot that can go wrong
You can end up angry
You can feel disappointed or disillusioned
You can make assumptions that aren’t true
When you got married you wanted to live with this person forever, you would have never believed that they had a bad intention behind what they’re doing. But why is that happening now?
I help you address that in this coaching module.
Once you start using the tools I teach for managing expectations, just imagine how things could be different!
You’re not going to get angry as often
You’re going to feel like you are on the same team
6. Sharing needs and desires
If we don’t share our needs and desires, our spouse won’t know what they are.
That seems obvious, but sometimes we just want our spouse to mindread!
Unfortunately, this often backfires for everybody.
In this module I'll teach you how to effectively communicate your needs and desires so that your spouse has the opportunity to understand and respond.
This helps reduce the likelihood of misunderstandings and conflicts.
Sharing needs & desires also fosters trust and intimacy so that your spouse can get to know you on a deeper level. It also encourages reciprocity so you can get to know your spouse on a deeper level too.
7. Communicating
This module is a couple’s choice module!
You choose the topic. Job, finances, friends, parenting…
I’ll use my skills and experience to help you address your topic so that you have tools to communicate more effectively.
8. Maintaining intimacy during transitions
There are so many seasons in a couple’s relationship!
Transitions can disrupt intimacy due to increased stress, exhaustion, lack of time together, change of routine, and so on!
In this module, I’ll teach you skills to collaborate effectively, make joint decisions & tackle challenges together so that you build resilience and emotionally support each other during life's changes.
9. Managing Time as a Couple
Lack of quality time together can lead to emotional and romantic disconnection.
Communication can break down, especially when there is limited time available for open and meaningful conversations. This makes it hard to address issues or resolve conflict.
In this module, I’ll teach you some simple, doable strategies to make time for each other so that you can still have intimacy & joy even when life is pulling you in all the directions!
10. Intentionally keeping fun in the relationship
Remember when you first fell in love and how much fun you had together!
If that’s disappearing or if you want to make sure it doesn’t disappear, you’re going to love this module.
I teach you lots of tools for keeping fun in your relationship so that you continue to make happy memories together.
10 weeks to a better marriage!
I’m really excited about this Good to Better Marriage Ladder because my experience tells me that these modules lay a solid foundation for a thriving marriage.
Contact me to set up a FREE 15 minute consultation to meet me and ask all your questions! I’d love to connect! email: kristin@kristinbarnhart.com
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