Reconnect
The support you need to stop spirals and create a relationship you love coming home to.
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Step-by-step online lessons give you tools for everyday conversations, while 3 live, private sessions with me give you the personal support to make them stick.
You and your partner will learn how to disagree without destroying trust, repair with real apologies, and reconnect in ways that bring lasting closeness.
Next course opening in time for the holidays!
My Heart & POV
What I’ve seen, as a psychologist for almost 30 years, is that change is possible when both partners are willing to try.
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And I’ve experienced this firsthand, too. I’ve been in relationships where both of us were open to developing new communication habits. Were they easy to change? Not at all. But because we both worked on it, those relationships are flourishing and joyful.
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I’ve also been in relationships where only one of us was willing to try, or our timing wasn’t in sync. Those relationships were stressful and often ended.
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I created RECONNECT to be a trusted path, not a content dump. You don’t need more information; you need tools that actually shift conversations in real time.​
This free sample is 60-second reset changes the tone of a conversation immediately. Try it tonight and see how quickly tension can shift to calm. Get it when you sign up for the waitlist.
Why Now Matters
The early phases of your relationship set the tone for everything that comes after.
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When you learn how to talk through disagreements now without shutting down, blowing up, or feeling unheard, you protect your closeness for years to come.
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And here’s the truth: these patterns don’t fix themselves.
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But they can change faster than you think when you have the right tools and support.
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I don’t want to repeat the same patterns for another year.
What People Are Saying
“Our communication is better. We’re listening more and are less defensive with each other.”
— RECONNECT student
“We’ve seen other therapists in the past, but their approach just made us feel worse. With you, we actually enjoy coming to sessions and feel hopeful as we keep trying.”
— Couple in private sessions
“I’m so glad I took the course because the improvement was immediate. We finally have words to repair instead of staying stuck.”
— Course participant
“We're communicating better. We’re listening more and are less defensive.” – Couple after the Arguing Respectfully private session.
The Path You’ll Follow (What’s Inside)
RECONNECT gives you more than just lessons. You’ll have a complete path with tools, support, and personalized guidance.
The Step-by-Step Transformation
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Step 1: Core Online Course
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Bite-sized lessons (10–15 minutes each) with practical tools you can use right away.
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Step 2: Personalization through Three Private Sessions
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Apply what you’ve learned with me by your side. These highly-tailored sessions cover my most requested topics: how to argue respectfully and how to apologize fully so reconnection is complete. You aren't left on your own to figure it out.
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Step 3: Tools for Real Life Conversations
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Spot conflict before it spirals
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Use words that lower defenses
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Listen so your partner relaxes
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Repair in real time
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Face problems as a team
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Keep the changes you make with daily & weekly check-ins
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Give me the trusted path, not just more information.
You’ll also get:
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The One-Minute Repair Ritual (Free today when you join the waitlist). It’s a simple, effective way to stop tension in its tracks and shift back to feeling like you’re on the same team. It takes less than 60 seconds, but the impact can change the entire tone of your evening. Couples tell me this tool alone has saved countless conversations from going off the rails. It’s FREE just for joining the waitlist.
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Downloadable guides: Listening vs. Problem-Solving, Misunderstanding → Understanding, Staying Connected During Family Visits
The 4 Core Modules in the online course
(Your Framework for Lasting Communication)
Why Learn With Me
I’m Dr. Kristin Barnhart, a licensed psychologist and relationship coach. Over the years, I’ve helped couples change unhealthy communication patterns into conversations that foster safety, intimacy, and lasting connection.​​
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And here’s what makes RECONNECT different: you won’t just do the online lessons and hope it sticks. You’ll also get three personalized, 45-minute private sessions with me, individually or as a couple.
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In the personalized sessions we dip our toes into the Harmony Method I created to help couples:
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React with curiosity (so you actually listen instead of react),
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Decrease conflict (so spirals don’t take over), and
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Increase intimacy (so connection grows, even after tough talks).
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In the personalized sessions, we’ll focus on my most-requested topics:
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How to argue respectfully (so disagreements don’t feel like battles), and
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How to apologize fully (so repair feels real and reconnection is complete).
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Clients tell me they love the sessions because it gives them the tools to finally feel like a team again.
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You’ll have the speed and ease of online support with the personal touch of real-time feedback. That way, you’re not just learning the tools, you’re practicing them with guidance, building confidence to use them when it matters most.​​
Why This is a Rare Opportunity
RECONNECT only opens a couple of times a year, at the moments I know couples need it most.
The waitlist is how you’ll be first to know when doors open, and it unlocks early-bird bonuses designed just for this round.
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I want to be first to know when doors open.
Sometimes people ask me if this works if their partner isn’t as into it. The answer is, Yes! The communication tools are simple, low-pressure, and give quick wins that build buy-in.
Additional Bonus for Waitlisters
​5 Phrases That Turn a Fight Into a Conversation (when you enroll): Tired of the same old arguments that go nowhere? This bonus resource gives you five simple, research-backed phrases you can use in the heat of the moment to calm tension, stop the cycle of defensiveness, and shift a fight into a productive conversation.
Couples who use these phrases discover how quickly conflict can turn into clarity and how safety and intimacy can return even after hard moments. With space to personalize and practice, this guide helps you build new patterns of communication that replace frustration with teamwork and bring back the love you’ve been missing.
