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The Harmony Method

You may be fighting and longing for connection again, or you may already have a good marriage.

Whatever your starting point, you want to decrease conflict and increase intimacy. You want things to be better between the two of you so that you can have the most joy and peace in your life.

As you move through the modules of the Harmony Method, you'll learn valuable communication tools that will help you be curious rather than furious with each other.

Couples love that hope is infused in the sessions and that I have a solution-focused approach aimed at clearing a path for helping them move toward happiness again.

I designed it to start at the foundation and build its way up the spiral so that a relationship grows closer and healthier each step of the way.

People who come for coaching share a common goal. They want to improve their connection with the people that matter most to them.

That's why I created The Harmony Method. It’s a clear, intentional model that helps everyone achieve exactly what they want - less fighting and more loving!

The Harmony Method because it’s infused with hope and offers a solution-focused approach that keeps you from getting stuck in problems. The method has modules for reducing conflict, improving connection and being curious, not furious with each other.

Modules can be used in any order and tailored to your unique needs. This flexibility ensures that you get the support and guidance you need, exactly when you need it. Clients love it!

In order to protect the confidentiality of my clients while still illustrating the transformative impact of The Harmony Method, the stories shared are a blend of experience from my work with clients and fiction. These illustrations allow me to share how it works without compromising anyone's privacy.

Communicating

This module is unique because it’s a client’s choice module! The focus is on communication tools and strategies, tailored to whatever relationship or situation you want help with.

You pick the topic, and I’ll use my expertise to help you communicate in a healthy and effective way. Clients love this flexibility!

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Some popular topics include

Sharing the workload at home
Blending families
Managing relationships with in-laws or blending families.

But it’s not just for couples! You can focus on any situation you want help with. For example, you can work on:

Setting boundaries
Improving communication with siblings
Navigating tricky conversations with aging parents
Communicating effectively with your boss or managing team dynamics

Throughout all the modules of The Harmony Method, I’ll help you to tackle communication challenges through tools and strategies. Whether it's a personal, professional, or family relationship, you’ll walk away with strategies to try during the week and then we tweak the following week until you are confident and comfortable.

Managing Expectations

When expectations aren’t managed well. You might find yourselves feeling disappointed or disillusioned and you might make judgments that aren’t true.

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For example, when Lisa and Ken got married and had children, they wanted to build a happy family together. They never believed that they would end up arguing about how to raise their children. Now they’re at odds over how to handle their teenage daughter’s curfew. Lisa wanted stricter rules to ensure their daughter’s safety, while Ken believed in giving her more freedom to make her own choices as she was getting to an age where she would be moving out of the house soon. Lisa and Ken’s conflicting expectations about parenting were causing tension and confusion at home.

Using strategies from The Harmony Method, Lisa and Ken explored their individual expectations and the impact these had on each other and how they parented. Through open discussions and guided exercises, they learned how to present a united front with their daughter. As a result, they fought less and were able to establish clear, mutually agreed-upon boundaries for their daughter.

Managing Time

Time management can make or break our relationships, whether it's with your partner, friends, or even yourself. How we use our time has a big impact on overall happiness. The Managing Time module is all about offering you simple, practical ways to make the most of your time, both with others and on your own.

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For couples, not having enough quality time together can lead to feeling disconnected emotionally and romantically. Busy lives and everyday responsibilities often get in the way, causing communication to suffer. When there's not enough time for meaningful conversation, it’s easy for issues to pile up. Over time, this lack of connection can chip away at the intimacy and joy that once made your relationship special.

For all of us, poor time management can mean spending too much time on things that don’t actually make us happy or feel fulfilled. You might find yourself endlessly scrolling through social media, binge-watching TV shows, or getting lost in distractions that don’t add much to your life. When we don’t manage our time well, it’s tough to find space for personal growth, hobbies, or self-care.

In this module, we’ll explore practical ways to manage your time, so you can keep your relationships strong and make sure you’re also taking care of yourself, even when you have a busy schedule.